135 Questions to Ask Before Marriage to Know Him/Her Better

1. What does marriage mean to you?

2. How do you show love to your partner?

3. What makes you feel loved and appreciated?

4. How much alone time do you need?

5. How much time should we spend together?

6. What are your deal-breakers in a relationship?

7. How do you want to celebrate anniversaries?

8. What traditions do you want to start together?

9. How will we keep romance alive after many years?

10. What happens if one of us falls sick?

11. How do you feel about divorce?

12. What would make you consider ending our marriage?

13. How will we support each other during hard times?

14. What are your biggest fears about marriage?

15. How do we make big decisions together?

1. How do you prefer to talk about problems?

2. Do you need time to cool down when angry?

3. What makes you feel heard and understood?

4. How often should we check in with each other?

5. What topics are hard for you to discuss?

6. How do you act when you're upset?

7. Should we go to bed angry or talk it out?

8. How do we handle disagreements in public?

9. What words or actions hurt you most?

10. How do you apologize when you're wrong?

11. Do you prefer texting or calling during the day?

12. How much should we share about our marriage with others?

13. What makes you shut down during conversations?

14. How can I tell when something is bothering you?

15. What communication habits do you want to improve?

1. How much debt do you have?

2. What is your credit score?

3. How much money do you save each month?

4. Should we have joint or separate bank accounts?

5. Who will pay which bills?

6. How much can we spend without asking each other?

7. What are your financial goals for the next five years?

8. How do you feel about lending money to family?

9. What happens if one of us loses our job?

10. How much should we save for emergencies?

11. Do you want to rent or buy a home?

12. How do you feel about budgeting?

13. What unnecessary expenses can you give up?

14. How will we plan for retirement?

15. Should we get a prenuptial agreement?

1. Do you want children?

2. How many children do you want?

3. When do you want to start a family?

4. What if we can't have children naturally?

5. How do you feel about adoption?

6. What parenting style do you prefer?

7. How will we discipline our children?

8. What values will we teach our kids?

9. What religion will we raise them in?

10. Should one parent stay home with the children?

11. How will we handle childcare costs?

12. What schools do you want for our children?

13. How involved should grandparents be?

14. What if we disagree about parenting decisions?

15. How will having children change our relationship?

1. What are your career dreams?

2. Would you move to another city for work?

3. How many hours per week do you want to work?

4. What if my job requires frequent travel?

5. Would you support me changing careers?

6. How do we balance two demanding careers?

7. What if one of us earns much more than the other?

8. Do you want to start your own business?

9. How long is your daily commute acceptable?

10. Would you take a pay cut for better work-life balance?

11. What if I get a job offer in another country?

12. How do you handle work stress at home?

13. Should we discuss work problems with each other?

14. What age do you want to retire?

15. How important is job satisfaction versus salary?

1. Who will do the cooking?

2. How will we split cleaning duties?

3. Who handles grocery shopping?

4. How often should we clean the house?

5. Who will manage home repairs?

6. How do we divide yard work?

7. Who keeps track of appointments and schedules?

8. Who will wash the dishes?

9. How do we share laundry responsibilities?

10. Who takes out the garbage?

11. Who will care for pets?

12. How do we split holiday preparation work?

13. Who manages social plans with friends?

14. What chores do you hate doing?

15. How do we adjust roles if someone gets busier?

1. How often will we visit your parents?

2. What if your family doesn't like me?

3. How much should we help our parents financially?

4. Where will we spend major holidays?

5. Can family members stay at our home?

6. How long can relatives visit us?

7. What boundaries should we set with in-laws?

8. How involved will our families be in our decisions?

9. What family traditions will we continue?

10. How do we handle family drama or conflicts?

11. Should we live near our families?

12. What if our parents need care when they're older?

13. How much personal information do we share with family?

14. Can we borrow money from our families?

15. How do we deal with difficult family members?

1. How important is physical affection to you?

2. How often do you need physical closeness?

3. What makes you feel connected to your partner?

4. How do you express intimacy besides physical touch?

5. What are your boundaries?

6. How comfortable are you discussing intimate topics?

7. What if our needs change over time?

8. How do we keep our connection strong?

9. What makes you feel desired?

10. How do we handle differences in needs?

11. What role does intimacy play in our relationship?

12. How do we maintain privacy in our intimate life?

13. What if health issues affect our intimacy?

14. How open should we be about our needs?

15. What does emotional intimacy mean to you?

1. What were your past relationships like?

2. Why did your previous relationships end?

3. How did your childhood shape your view of marriage?

4. Are you still friends with your ex-partners?

5. What did you learn from past relationships?

6. Do you have any debts from previous relationships?

7. Are there legal issues from your past?

8. What mistakes did you make before?

9. How has your past shaped who you are?

10. Are there health issues I should know about?

11. What are your biggest regrets?

12. Have you dealt with addiction problems?

13. What family issues affected your childhood?

14. Are there secrets you haven't told me?

15. How do you want to do things differently with me?